Nothing to Feel Thankful For

So, it’s Thanksgiving and you don’t feel very thankful, what’s wrong with you? Could be nothing; did you suffer a loss of some kind? Was there a traumatic event, such as a hurricane? Did you lose your job or have some bad health news? Any one of these things can make you feel less than thankful and like not celebrating the holiday. But you have family coming over and need to get over these feelings. How do I overcome feeling sadness, loneliness, or depression?
First, you should consult a doctor, your condition may be related to PTSD and there are medications and treatments for PTSD. Accept that these are your feelings and you just can’t help it. Hopefully these feelings will be gone by Christmas, if not, remember the steps you take to get through Thanksgiving and apply them to the Christmas and New Year holidays as well.
→ Don’t fake it. Do not “pretend” to be happy, this will only make you feel worse. Go into the day with your feelings the way they are and try the best you can to deal with them.
→ Try to avoid all confrontational situations. Whether it’s proving you are right about something or a relative who just gets under your skin, think about how you will handle the situation ahead of time.
→ Should you find yourself alone on Thanksgiving, make a plan about how you will spend the day ahead of time. Research what places will be open and maybe a little window shopping is just what the doctor ordered. If you prefer to be with others, ask a friend if you can join them, or maybe volunteer dishing out meals to others.
→ Treat yourself with compassion and understanding; everyone goes through rough patches at times and there is nothing wrong with you for feeling this way. Not feeling thankful on Thanksgiving does not make you a bad person, so accept your feelings for what they are this year and go easy on yourself.
→ End your long day with something to look forward to. You made it through a most difficult day and you should reward yourself. Cozy up with a good book and a cup of cocoa, take a long walk outside (weather permitting), go for a drive, or take a nice, warm bath. Whatever you choose to do, make sure it’s something rewarding.
We tend to think that we need to feel thankful and enjoy the holiday to have a wonderful day and if we don’t feel this way, we will have a terrible day. Most of us usually always have just an okay day with all kinds of ups and downs throughout the day. Don’t assume your day will be terrible because you aren’t thankful; find a way to realize it will be an okay day and get comfortable with that idea. There will be some pleasant moments and a few highlights no matter how you choose to spend your Thanksgiving.
We at Assisted Living Made Simple want to wish you all a happy and peaceful Thanksgiving holiday.


